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So either she’s changed her mind, in which case she needs to stop caring if others will judge her, or she still judges others, in which case she’s a hypocrite and needs to practice what she preaches.DEAR CAROLYN: Re: Permission She can tell friends she is dating men and taking time to get to know them before making serious plans and introducing them to her kids — a choice that seems wise.
So, instead of shooting him down as “inappropriate,” which just begs him to get defensive without providing much enlightenment, try explaining what you believe.
DEAR CAROLYN: Re: Gift I am a 35-year-old woman who is not even close to prudish, and I would be super weirded out if a guy I was dating for just barely two months bought me lingerie. 17 could make you more inclined, though, not less, to see this as too intimate.
Can’t hurt to have a conversation about the relative intimacy of gifts. There’s also the potential for the 17-year-old girl herself to respond to the gift as too much too soon — and natural consequences are generally more effective teachers than any third-party warning can be. DEAR CAROLYN: Re: Gift I just queried the 19-year-olds in our office and they all said ICK!!!!!
That buys you a lot of leeway when they’re older and you have an I’m-Older-So-I-Know-type opinion you think it’s important to convey.
All this being said: If you just think it’s too sexy for 17, then, probably best to see this as a stolen-horse/barn-locking-type situation.